Episode Transcript
Speaker 1 00:00:02 Welcome to the balanced perspective podcast, where we're going to be challenging perspectives on what it actually takes to be successful in both business and in life. I'm your host, Terry Ann Richards. And with 16 years as a serial entrepreneur, I've experienced some of life's most epic successes and failures. Join me as we journey on a mission to blow the lid off of some of the best kept secrets to living a life of true success from the inside out.
Speaker 3 00:00:39 Welcome back to the balance perspective. I am here with my new friend, Candice. I love that her bio puts this first and foremost. She's a mom, boom, she's a mom. She's a podcaster social marketer and a centralist. We're going to have to dig a little bit more into that who loves to engage in interesting conversations with other influencers and entrepreneurs. Her favorite conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in a self-proclaimed master manifester. I know a few master manifesters, I'm not one. I want to be one. So teach me and a personal development junkie. She's the host of the ripple effect podcast. Trust the Nagel, and to tell the truth that like so many things are saying, I'm just, I'm excited. All right. Welcome to the show, Candace.
Speaker 4 00:01:29 Well, thank you so much. I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 3 00:01:32 This is awesome. Okay. Number one. We're going to talk about essentially just, I don't know what an essential list is. I need a dictionary help me
Speaker 4 00:01:41 Well, and essentially it's I got it from, uh, the concept is a book by Greg. Uh, I'll have to send you the link for it, but he's got a book called essential ism and like so good. I think I'm on my fourth. Listen, love this book. It was introduced to me through a mutual friend who said, I feel like this is your thing, because I would have called myself a minimalist for the longest time. However, essential ism is sort of a step sort of beyond that, where it's less but better. And I really liked that idea because it didn't just mean, you know, looking at my closet and saying, does this bring me joy? And then letting it go, if it didn't, it was sort of one step further. It was like every single area of my life. I want less but better. Which I really like.
Speaker 4 00:02:24 Cause I think I want value. You know, I'm the kind of person who like really likes good quality clothing, good quality wine, good quality food, good quality friendships or conversations. But I don't have a lot of time for fluff. I don't have a lot of time for extra. I mean, I live part-time in a tiny home and my family of four, we're looking to relocate full-time to the tiny home. And I found that as I shrunk like my living space, right? How much space I'm taking up in the world, I've actually expanded my impact. And that is what I'm all about. So it's not that my impact has to be small. It's just, what is essential now? What is important now? And that's really the essential this lifestyle is you just constantly asking yourself, is this living my best? This is me moving myself forward.
Speaker 3 00:03:08 What's the like
Speaker 4 00:03:10 Now
Speaker 3 00:03:11 Mary condo in your life.
Speaker 4 00:03:13 Pretty much. Yes, totally. So friendships, business opportunities, you name it. And I'm the kind of person who I like to say. I'm kind of like, oh, I'm like a dog, right? I'm like, what's going on? Can I be involved? Was where are we going? Right. What are we doing? That's an, that distractability right. That squirrel mindset has not always brought my best to the world. And sometimes I think my potency is watered down because I'm in so many different places. And I see it in a lot of my friends. I see a lot of moms. I hear it in a lot of my listeners. Right? We're in so many things because we want to have an impact. And I'm like, but is that important now what's important now is really sort of the question you ask yourself as an essential list.
Speaker 3 00:03:55 I really, really liked that. So I'm, I'm starting to really dig this word, essentialist, essentialism. You're you're saying something that I really, I actually think is a great, almost spinoff conversation for us right now, because you're talking about finding focus and I think there's this entrepreneurial dilemma that happens. And so bear with me, cause we're going to go back into your journey, but you got to see it. We're going with the flow.
Speaker 4 00:04:20 I love it. I love it. Let's
Speaker 3 00:04:21 Love it. Awesome. And so, you know, there, there still is this hustle culture that is out there and it's the entrepreneurial dilemma. And I think in some ways we created ourselves because I think highly ambitious, innovative, creative people, like any new shiny glittery object that walks in front of me. I'm like, what is it? Should I be on Tik TOK? Should I do tick talks to, should I have a chick talk account folks I have yet to do anything with it because I'm like, there's too much. There's too many things. And I'm learning, right. I'm learning to take a step back, but that's after 16 years in business, but I'm watching a lot of entrepreneurs. Who've been in the game for a long time. And they're so pulled in all the directions because you're going to say, here's, what's worked for me and I'm going to say, here's, what's worked for me and they're going to both, they're going to try to do both. And so I love this idea of essential ism, but also what is, what is right for me right now. And I think that that is so important and I hope you all are listening to that because what's important to me right now is really a question of like alignment with like who I am, what I stand for, my family, my core values, like all the stuff that's important.
Speaker 4 00:05:39 And there's a lot of stuff that's important, right? Like my challenge with the minimalism, what I didn't necessarily want, like less I'm like, no, I really want to keep all of my shoes. Maybe not all of my shoes, but shoes or like friends, I like shoes. Right. It doesn't matter whether I'm, you know, what shape I'm in. If I've had too much wine shoes generally are like, they're really good friend. Right. You know? So I was looking at that and I was like, but my shoes bring me joy. So what's important now for my shoes while it's really acknowledging, I really love the shoes. Right. So I don't necessarily need to get rid of all of them. I guess that was sort of the whole concept of this you're right. What's important now. I mean, I, at time of recording, I have a three month old baby.
Speaker 4 00:06:22 So some of the things I'm focusing on are very different than they might be in three months from now or a year from now. Right. And so it's like, what is important now? And you're so right, because I recently walked away from a number of social media platforms because I got really clear. Do I like being on the platform? No. Do I really want to be on the platform? No. So why am I on the platform? Because somebody, some point told me that I should be on the platform, but is it actually part of what my plan is? Because if I'm an essential list and I'm adopting this mindset and integrity is important, then do I really need to be on the Platte? No. And I think more like, that's the trust that niggles tell the truth, right? This sort of comes from my podcast is, you know, when you're talking to yourself like this, you already know, is it important? No. And there were other things that I'm like, I think I want to do this. And my wholesale says yes. And you're right. It may not be the thing in six months. That's okay. Yeah. Asking yourself what's important now.
Speaker 3 00:07:19 Yeah. And I, I think there is a part in your bio. It says conversations are the ones that take courage to engage in. But I also think making a decision that is essential to you takes a ton of courage. It's sort of that I have a friend river's that says you need to zag when everyone else is zigging. Right. And that zag is really this like being super authentically in tune with you and the world might say, Hey, get on tech talk. That's what you're supposed to be doing. Right. And you might get on there and point out a couple words and be like, this feels weird. And it's not my thing. And I can't do it. Or you might get on there and be like, man, this is my jam, but I'm not going to go play on LinkedIn anymore, whatever it is. But I think, I think the struggle is, is there's just a lot of noise and there's not enough pause. Right.
Speaker 4 00:08:11 So,
Speaker 3 00:08:12 Okay. So we'll come back, but let's go, let's go back into your journey because you've got a real, you've got a couple Mount Everest that you've overcome over the years and I want to, I want to paint a picture for people, right? The show's called the balanced perspective and, and really all that means is how do you see sort of the behind the scenes of what made somebody, who they are and then what continues to allow them to grow into the person they're becoming. And that's, by taking a balanced perspective, you have to look behind the scenes, you know, like peer through the curtains. So take us back to sort of the beginning of your journey and some of the things that you've had to overcome. And then we'll sort of line up to how that brought you to today with your
Speaker 4 00:08:54 Business. Sure. Um, well, I mean, I grew up like in a very, it was very safe. Um, I had a wonderful childhood and I need to start that because I think that was an amazing base for me, that I've sort of come back to multiple times, but at 17 I was sexually assaulted by a boyfriend and I ended up staying in that relationship for over two years because of all the stuff that comes with that, the gas lighting, the manipulation, those very subtle, abusive things that happen within a relationship of that type. He was a little bit older than me. I wasn't aware, I hadn't really been prepared for this sort of part of life. Um, and it's an ongoing question I have in my mind now that I am a mom, how do I prep her for this without, you know, preparing her for it.
Speaker 4 00:09:35 Right. There's a difference. And, you know, making her aware. So that was sort of where everything started. And because I basically stumbled out of that relationship and then into other ones that were more or less basically the same, or, you know, young men who didn't really have the capacity awareness, grounding, whatever it is to manage, you know, the intensity of the emotions and guilt and shame and stuff that I was processing. And, and unfortunately, you know, ringing with me forward. Um, I moved through relationship to relationship. I mean, it changes who you see yourself as. And I think that's such a, you know, a huge piece of that. So there was some, you know, get up off the floor, put your life back together, figure out who you are, kind of moved. Other that ended up finding somebody who left me with a significant amount of debt right before I got into my thirties.
Speaker 4 00:10:21 Yeah. So at that prime, right, when you're starting to just get some traction, I went backwards like significantly. But again, you know, I'd realize while I had been through so much already that I knew I would transition to this. And to be honest, something that was sort of all the way through is if I gave up or gave in or rolled over and played dead, then these individuals would win. And for me, that just was something I couldn't live with. Right. So I made dumb decision. That was my number one thing. Um, and I kept choosing these people. And so I kept on sort of limping my way through the healing that comes from a lot of these things. Married had my daughter realized I needed to be better and heal myself. Right. Because now there was another little person who was looking up to me, took me a couple of years to leave that relationship.
Speaker 4 00:11:06 But I'm on my own right now. I'm a single mom running my businesses. So it's sort of a, I've basically been stumbling forward. Right. I love that. Fail forward, fail, fail fast. Right? Fail often. That's basically my story is I just kept falling on my face and going, okay, that didn't work detour, right? Move, try this, that didn't work, um, to the place where finally in 2020, when the world's shut down, I went out, I've been waiting for years to be able to hit the pause button on my life and deal finally and fully with all of the things and sort of just bring it to the front. Because to be honest, I was really scared to look at some of those things because of the shame and the guilt. But I thought, what if I don't come out of this? Right. What if, what if I can't get up off the floor?
Speaker 4 00:11:48 What if it's too much right. As women were simultaneously too much and not enough all at the same time. Right? So I'm too much and I might not be enough to handle it. And what was interesting is when I finally stopped to do some intense healing was actually 14 weeks of a feminine balance coach on Thursday, a therapist on Monday. And pretty much anybody I knew who had a modality and healing, I was like, yo, you're not busy right now. Can I book you for an online session? I'm working through my stuff, which was really quite wonderful to emerge from that feeling like I was reintroducing myself to myself, finding that I was finally fully myself, you know, not afraid of anything that I had gone through or been through. And the shame would have been quieted to discover things like back country camping and to start podcasting simply because now after 20 years, I was finally talking about everything and realizing that when I was talking about it, most people were like, oh my gosh, that happened to me or, oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 00:12:44 I know a friend that had, that happened to them. How are you moving through it? Or the number of people who have yet to start telling their stories, realizing that when one woman tells the truth about her life, the world splits open. And at first that is a ripping and like a rendering of like, it's just it's it's it. But then when it comes back together, it comes back together almost more fully than it was before, because we've been sweeping stuff under the rug behind the curtains for so long. And that time is done. Like we can't do that anymore in business or in life, I don't think. Yeah.
Speaker 3 00:13:19 Yeah. And I think, you know, so I am a big, big believer, big proponent in the strength of a woman's voice by being able to share her story. It's why I love podcasting. Whether it's through, you know, doing interviews with awesome folks like yourself or going on a podcast and being interviewed myself, there is power in a story because what we find often, you know, your story is unique to you, but it's not so unique that it's not relatable to the many. And it's, it's like this beacon of light that happens. I'm a survivor of childhood trauma and went through years and years of physical, mental, and emotional abuse at the hands of people that I was raised by, but also, you know, past boyfriends. And when I look at my world and I, you know, I look at where I'm at today and I look at someone like yourself, you know, where you sit today.
Speaker 3 00:14:15 There's this part of me that always has held onto this. What for what, for what? For like, what, what did you go through this for? What was the purpose? Because everything needs a connection to me. I need to connect circles and loops around everything. And so what's the purpose. Why do really good people go through really crappy things and not just once, but sometimes their entire life. And I don't have the answer so sorry, folks. I don't have the exact answer, but mine, the thing that I've landed on, which I'm feeling like maybe this is where you're landing was. If I can get it and heal it and get to this other side where the grass is maybe not completely green, but it ain't, it ain't no, I got a water it, but if I can get there, yes. Wouldn't it be possible that if I shared my story, she might get there too. And then she might get there and share her story and then she'll get somewhere. And there's this ripple effect, which is like your podcast names,
Speaker 3 00:15:20 Picking it up girl. And so I think there's so much power in that. And so, okay, so you go through this ridiculous amount of stuff. And I hear this so often, like the 20, 20 pause, so many people couldn't handle it. I was just like you, I had just come out of the relationship. And uh, and I was still trying to figure out like what the F just happened to my world. Right. And when you're busy in the, you know, the life's hamster wheel, you don't really have a time to like, think you just you're in the act of doing right. Human, being human, doing I'm really good at the doing side.
Speaker 4 00:15:59 You're like me. Oh my gosh. I'm like, well, we could like just, you know, your listeners, but you can basically join us for a cup of coffee. That's all you've done today.
Speaker 3 00:16:09 But like 2020, that, that pause allowed me to really like almost disintegrate the, was the, what was over here and start to reform the, the, what do you want? Like, what do you want, what are you looking for? Who are you becoming? And so I had this very strong belief in who I was becoming and knew what I needed to do to get there and then was able to attract this amazing partner who like, basically comes out of a movie guys. Like he walks on water. Basically. He really, I haven't seen it, but I'm pretty sure he could at this point. Yeah. So you're at this place where you've gone through your healing and then you decide I'm going to start a podcast. And then you're now you're starting your world into entrepreneurship. You have your podcast. Talk to me a little bit about what provoked that.
Speaker 4 00:17:00 I think I've always enjoyed. Well, for the longest time, I couldn't speak what had happened to me. I could write about it, but I certainly couldn't speak about it. And so now that I've like opened up, you know, my voice, it's like, I can't, I can't shut it up anymore. I'm not sure I want to either. Um, and oftentimes on my podcast lesson where we're talking about something serious, but we're doing it slightly. Irreverently because I want people to be a little bit provoked. I want them to be poked a little bit. I want them to think because so many women, people in general, but women, for sure, we are stuck in a rot. We're just doing, we're supposed to be doing, we, we know it's going to take courage to change. And so I kind of want to be a catalyst to say, Hey, there's life on the other side, you know, freedom.
Speaker 4 00:17:42 It takes a lot of energy. It takes a lot of, um, you know, backbone, but ladies, we're doing hard, right? If you're living in a way that isn't you on purpose, you doing what you know, you're meant to be doing. Whether it's as a mom, as a business owner, doesn't matter, then that's hard too. So choose your heart. And so I started because once I was sort of unleashed, I wanted to talk about it largely because yes, I want other women to realize that, you know, they can just start talking about their story and yes, that'll bring someone to the other side, but also I'm a mom. So if I don't talk about it, what kind of a world is she walking into? Right. I have a little girl. I do not want her story to mirror mine. I want her to like stand on my shoulders and continue to make change.
Speaker 4 00:18:32 So I feel like I owe it to her to be as vocal as I can about the injustices I see in the world. What matters is that this kind of stuff can't keep happening and it will keep happening if really strong, powerful, independent women. Yes. You listening to the podcast, don't just stand up and say, Hey, this happened to me. It happened to me too. And now I have a little boy who I want to raise to help me with the conversation, because we also need men on the other side who were saying, Hey, offside, offside dude. Right? So we have to come together. And I think the way that we do that is we say, Hey, here's my vulnerability. And in my vulnerability, I'm actually as strong as I possibly can because I'm saying here I am. Yes.
Speaker 3 00:19:17 Yeah. Well, there's no courage without vulnerability. Bernay brown says that, you know, what I think is powerful about this topic is that there is this false safety that a lot of people live in. And, and, and let me go deeper with that. So if you've never known her or him who have been harmed, then there's this false safety that exists in your world. And so it's hard to understand the perspective of somebody who's been harmed or challenged or whose life still is sort of spinning because of the obstacles that they've had to overcome. The more individuals who speak up from all walks of life, women and men from different cultures, religions, all individuals coming together, speaking up about what has happened and what will happen is people by, you know, in the crowd will look and go, well, that person they're from my neighborhood or, you know, they go to my church and now all of a sudden, not saying the world's not safe, but there's this part of false safety that can be ignorant because we will not understand that there, there are challenges much bigger than the, you know, the four corners of your home.
Speaker 3 00:20:40 And there are struggles that people have to go through that live next door. And so I think that there's a beautiful perspective that happens when more people share their truth. And it also gives permission to those that have stayed silent for a really long time. And there's beauty, there's beauty that happens when you just let it out. Right? Like even if you don't, you're not doing it for anybody, but yourself, it's just a selfish moment that releasing, it's like, you know, popping a at the top on a, on a shaken pop bottle. Right. Like, but then it all like, you know, over time, you know, relaxes. Right. So talk to me a little bit about, and I feel like I know the answer, but what's your mission. What's your big, big goal in terms of what you're doing with your business and obviously your, your work.
Speaker 4 00:21:28 I think eventually, you know, the doing part of it will be speaking right. And, and, and therefore helping other people, but, you know, like let's lift sort of up and out of, of that. It would be, you know, being the best mom that I can be, because I think raising the next generation are having an impact on the next generation is, is huge. And so I want to be really, really honest about all of that. And then I think after that, it would be, you know, there are still women in the world who have it worse than I do. Right. And the more I dive into this and the deeper I go into this, the more I realize there's a certain privilege that comes with this in terms of how this has been held for me. And there's a much bigger space, right? And so until all women are free, I'm not done.
Speaker 4 00:22:15 So the mission, I think, would be, there's a quota there by at least two Wolf, I think it is. And she says, I will make the world more beautiful and that will be my life. And I'm like that I think sort of encompasses what I'm doing is can I leave a legacy? What does that look like? Well, connection, collaboration, communication, because I think those are the things that bridge the gap, but let's say, you know, the bank account was padded and I was being booked to speak. And so I can keep sharing my story and sharing my story and have a bigger impact, collaborate with women like you, who also have a story. And we say, Hey, me too. Right. And here's what I'm doing. Here's how I've moved forward. There's hope on the other side, right? Pick yourself up girlfriend, and let's figure this out.
Speaker 4 00:22:56 But then also there were systems in place, both, you know, in my town, in my country, in the world that are systemic and they're a problem. And it takes strong women who are not afraid to say, Hey, I don't want to fight about it, but here's my line. I know about boundaries. And so I'm setting this boundary here and we're going to move this boundary here and we're going to move this boundary here, and then I'm going to pass it to the next generation. And they're going to keep moving this boundary forward so that, you know, we're not hearing about women who have miscarriages, who are then put in prison because that's the way their system works. We can't stop. Like it's, it's. So beyond my story, it's like, look, we have to talk about this stuff because it's worse than other places. And until every girl can go to school, every girl has access to the health care she needs, every girl has that. So the next generation is not moving forward in the ignorance that brought them forth. They're moving forward with much more. I'm not done. And so that's sort of, I think the overarching, you know, drive and what the mission is
Speaker 3 00:24:00 A hundred percent. Yeah. And I think, I think that that's beautiful because we're talking about the four corners of your house here. Right. But you're talking in a global space where sometimes that is so far outside of someone's thought to think globally. So out there that most people don't think they can make a difference. And it takes, it takes the minds of a few to gather the love of many, to create a movement that creates change. And I think our history has shown us that time and time again, when you think of any great movement, when any side of the world it started with one, then it went to many and then it just, the world woke up.
Speaker 4 00:24:45 Exactly. And so if we don't do that, and I think that's part of the reason why I have this global mission. And I mean, I would, you know, dare to say the pandemic reminded us very quickly, how interconnected we actually are. And so I think sometimes our mindset of, you know, I'm just one, what impact can I have? I would say, um, that mindset needs to be upgraded. I had to realize that myself and it was that, you know, the pandemic coming in and I was like, wow, there was years ago when I wanted to do more of this talking when I was starting to tell my story and podcasting wasn't as big of a thing yet. Right. And now I think, well, fast forward, and I can now get my story out this much faster. What kind of a world is my daughter stepping into? Where is it going to be when she's graduating at 18? Right. Like, where's that going to be for her? And so I think, you know, raising that awareness is going to have a huge impact.
Speaker 3 00:25:44 Um, if you were to go back and sort of the history of your world, who is that defining person that really influenced you in becoming the person that you are today?
Speaker 4 00:25:57 I would say my mom had a huge impact. Um, both positive and negative. I guess, if you want to define it on a positive standpoint, she did everything, right. She managed the books and she helped my dad run the farm. She had a part-time job. She raised the kid, she was involved in her community. So she was super woman. And I always thought, you know what? I was really proud. She was my mom. And so she's really set the standard. She's also this amazing earth mom, right, where she's totally present for her children, which gives me space and freedom to be a little more, you know, globally minded as I'm having children, because she's there to offer her support. But also because I don't know that I ever saw her get angry. I saw a very passive, aggressive energy, which was just a symptom of the time.
Speaker 4 00:26:36 Right. So, you know, and she had stood on the shoulders of her mother to be a little bit different in her generation. And her was a little bit different in her generation. Right. Subtly, quietly, um, you know, revolutions, aren't always loud. Sometimes they're just steady and quiet. So I look at some of that and I think, well, you know, I'm glad my daughter gets to see me be angry because I'm like, Hey, you have a full force of emotion. So does mommy have a bad day? So does mommy, right? Mommy's going to time out because she's stressing about something and not dealing with it appropriately. You know? So I, I look at some of that, you know, she's also been married to my dad for years. And so connection collaboration, like some of these things that are really, you know, impacted on me positive and negative, um, were from the example that she set for me.
Speaker 3 00:27:21 Yeah. That's awesome. Do you have a favorite book?
Speaker 4 00:27:24 Yeah, I do.
Speaker 3 00:27:26 What is it
Speaker 4 00:27:27 The power of your subconscious mind? Yes. I think that's, what's called Pyra subconscious mind. That mum went on ladies.
Speaker 3 00:27:35 It's
Speaker 4 00:27:35 A subconscious mind.
Speaker 3 00:27:37 You're a mom brain actually will never go away avenue.
Speaker 4 00:27:40 I know my
Speaker 3 00:27:41 Daughter, like I said, it would be way worse for you, your three mindset. You're three months out of it, but I'm, I'm like, you know, my daughter is 21, my son's 15, he'll be 16 in a couple of weeks. And then like, I'll go to say something. And like the words are no longer in my brain.
Speaker 4 00:27:56 And then you're like, hang on. It's only a problem when your podcast. And you're like, damn, that's a really good idea. Let me get my deal.
Speaker 4 00:28:04 Yeah. But no, I love the progress of conscious mind because it's just, bite-size pieces of, of different ways that maybe you haven't been thinking about it also gives you affirmation. So you can begin to change it because sometimes we know that we need to change the inner dialogue that's been running our subconscious, but we don't really have the words to do so. And so that's been huge. I think the other one is by Sophie Bashar, which is you are a goddess, which I absolutely love. And it just kind of goes through these different feminine archetypes, which I found to be hugely helpful in the last few years, as I've been sort of really just coming to accept the fullness of who I am.
Speaker 3 00:28:36 Nice. So let's kind of go back to 2020, but like with a magic wand, what advice would you give yourself?
Speaker 4 00:28:46 Well, I'd actually say, so I've been an entrepreneur since I was 24. So I've been in this journey for a long time. And if I went back to her, I think the story would be exactly the same. It would be. Um, don't be afraid to tune out what other people are telling you to be true. Take some time and weigh that against your own heart and mind. And even if what you're feeling flies in the face of that, which advice you're being given, weigh that to with a grain of salt, because you may not know what you don't know. Right. And so there might be some wisdom and value in that. Um, but really weigh it and figure it out and then trust yourself. That's sort of an overall energy that I would like to go back and give myself when the nickel happened at 17 trust yourself.
Speaker 4 00:29:28 Right? You have no logical reason why you shouldn't trust him. It'll show up later. Right? Uh, business partnerships that I had made, there was always this, oh, I don't know. Right. Something's missing. Something's not there. Maybe I should sleep on it. You know, that kind of thing. I would just say, trust yourself. And so I think that would be the same energy, whether it's whether it's 24, whether I was 17, it would be, don't be afraid to trust yourself, even if that flies in the face. Because even if you descend, you continue to move forward. Right. Like, I don't know that I would say, you know, don't date the guy. I feel like I wouldn't have the lesson and I'm grateful for the lesson, but I wish I could trust myself because I would've moved quicker through the lesson. And I'd be further ahead now. So I think that's what I would say. And you know, to the listener, like, it doesn't matter where you are, but start today because a year from now you look back and go, I am so glad I made that decision, even though the middle was messy and progress is so much better than perfection.
Speaker 3 00:30:25 That is so good. Okay. I'm going to ask my signature question and then we're going to find out where people can hang out with him. Cool. So what does perspective shifting mean to you?
Speaker 4 00:30:39 I was going to say something like that. Like that's life, isn't it. I heard recently you have to hold your values and your beliefs lightly. So this is coming from someone who often compromised her beliefs and her values for the other people in the world. So it shouldn't make them uncomfortable. Okay. So it's not letting go of them. It's holding them lightly because sometimes they are in conflict with each other. And I think it's the same because sometimes as you grow and your perspective shifts it's because you've seen from a different angle, a different perspective, your beliefs have shifted. You've been made aware of something you didn't know. And so I think, you know, perspective shifting is life. And you have to give yourself grace that who you were yesterday is not who you are today and why. Goodness gracious. I'm so glad I'm not the same person. I was at 16 or 26 or even 36. You
Speaker 3 00:31:29 And me both.
Speaker 4 00:31:30 Right? Like we've moved forward. This is very good. Um, so you know, people can change and so hold your beliefs and your values lightly. Don't let them go, but just hold them lightly so that when you realize they're in conflict with that, now you can go back to the essential, this mindset and say, what's important now. So you don't lose sight of who you want to be in, where you want to go by the time you're 45. Cause the only person you're in competition with us, who you're going to be in 10 years from now. So who would she be? How would she respond and then move and operate from there? Because now your perspective is 10 years in the future and who knows who you're going to be.
Speaker 3 00:32:04 Damn took the words out of my mouth. Alright, thank you for that. That was awesome. All right. Where can people hang with you? Where is your place and box in terms of the social media space?
Speaker 4 00:32:18 Uh, you know what, it's, it's an interesting change in place right now. Um, so they can find me for sure. If they go to my website, which is Canada smiley.com, I have moved all of my blogs and my writings, um, to there. So I maintain the copyright. You can still find me on Facebook and Instagram, but who knows how long. Um, and I am on the tech talks like you said, but, oh my goodness, it's hard to adopt something new, even though I know, you know, letting people in in that way would be cool, but they had to my website, all of my socials, no matter where I am at any point in time in my journey will be there and they can follow along.
Speaker 3 00:32:48 I know social media is, is hard. I don't know. I think I'm at that age and I'm not old by any means, but I'm at that age where I'm like, but I just got used to this one. Why do you
Speaker 1 00:32:57 Want me to
Speaker 3 00:32:58 Look at something else the time? And then I go over there and you know, you're going to listen to 10,000 songs to pick your song for the reel and then you got to video it and then you get a point at things. And I just feel like a silly little goose and I've done it though. I've done it. I've taken a break off of it. Cause it was exhausting for me, but they were fun, but they were exhausting
Speaker 4 00:33:19 Reach out to me afterwards because I've recently come in contact with a program that has totally taken most of the posting and stuff like that off of my plate, which just freed me up to do more creative work. So I will, I will share.
Speaker 3 00:33:30 Yeah. All right. Awesome man. Well, you are a, uh, you're just awesome. I love, I love your mission. I love what you're doing. Keep, keep keeping it real. Keep putting your self out there and you know, helping to shift perspectives and get people to have conversations that, you know, maybe they wouldn't have had if they didn't hear your story or the stories that you're probably helping to propel it of other people. So keep it up. It's been, uh, it's been awesome. Thank you. All right. Have a great day.
Speaker 1 00:34:04 Thank you so much for tuning into the balanced perspective podcast. Listen, if you liked what you heard, can you give me a review? Maybe even a five star. Alright. Have an awesome day.
